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A lot of people have been asking this question, not necessarily a question thrown to me personally, but since valentines day I’ve been seeing this on Facebook.
Do you believe in “Forever”?
I’ve read a couple of answers that somehow made me ponder. Do I believe in “Forever”?
NO I DON’T. Forever is just a fantasy but I do believe in a more realistic “TILL DO US PART.”
The Church pastor that delivered God’s message last Sunday was quite clear with biblical point of view on Marriage.
Mark 10: 6-9
“But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one.
Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
I believe that Marriage is still sacred, Marriage is a lifetime commitment, that’s why I believe in long engagement.
Before marriage happens, attraction comes first. Man gets attracted to a woman, he/she gets to know about the other person better, they fall in love. But it doesn’t stop there, Men always believe that expression of love is sex which is the primary purpose of marriage “to procreate” ( and the two will become one flesh). And that is the first magical part of a commitment. The next part usually enters when problems starts to seep in. For some it could be the “In-Laws” (a common problem with close family ties) or financial problems.
Union of two different people is a real challenge and any marriage that do not suffer from trials are definitely a fake marriage. This trials, could either make or break a relationship. It could solidify the foundation of the relationship and conquer all odds or it could melt all promise and end up losing each other.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. It is not solely based on feeling, but of trust, respect and love.It is never a spur of the moment. There is no marriage made in heaven. Time will test your commitment love would even fade away, trust will be broken, and respect could turn to something unimaginable.So with this thoughts in mind why will I believe in Til death do us part?
The answer can be found on 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
Regardless how many times you’ve been hurt by your spouse there should always be room for forgiveness just as God forgave our sins,
No matter how hurt we are, we should never be rude, It should always protect always trust, always hopes always perseveres. Marriage is not easy, but it can be manageable if we stop thinking about ourselves.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
That’s why before getting married marriage counselors should give emphasis that this is a lifetime commitment, no expiry date. For love to last, it should be kept burning. If it dies, rekindle and get back that loving feeling. At the end of the day, after all those drama, love will always prevail.